BASICS 101 – How to Get Your Life Together

Written by Fatima Mahboob
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How to Get Your Life Together with Some Simple Changes

Hello, world! In this series of articles, I am going to do the basics of everything to get your life together. Everything I know, that I have researched about and if there are things you want me to research about then, I can. You can ask me in the comments below.

Hence, let me present to you, my very first (and rather ambitious) article of BASICS 101: How to get your life together in five steps.

Before you get me all wrong and curse me for this, I must confess…I don’t know how to get your life together.

I Am Equally Screwed and My Life Sucks Too

I am still in the process of getting my life together. It sucks. Honestly speaking, no words can describe the situation that I am in better. I often find myself wondering why I should bother to get my life on track when life is always going to find a way to disrupt my balance. Am I ever going to be okay? Is this worth it? I believe these questions haunt all of us.

Because we all realize this painful truth, no matter how much you try to control something; you can’t just control every other variable out there. Then we think; if you don’t control everything then there is no point in doing anything. Moreover, there is nothing wrong in thinking this way because we cannot always help it.

I mean, even the greatest of the conquerors, e.g. Julius Caesar, did not hold everything in the palm of their hands. He did fall hopelessly in love with Cleopatra. Let me tell you, he did not plan that, but he still carried on and struggled. Moreover, throughout history, everyone has struggled. We are a creation that struggles and struggles and struggles (all in our unique ways of course). We can argue that that struggle was/is pointless because eventually Julius Caesar ceased to exist, and we will disappear one day too. No one will remember us eventually. It is a scary thought.

Nevertheless, it is my firm belief that if you let someone else take away what is yours; if you throw it away then you are not going to be happy.

Life is Never Perfect. There’s No Such Thing as Ever Lasting Happiness

Living a half-life won’t make you happy, and when you take control of your life, I cannot guarantee you are going to be perfectly happy either. So why struggle?

In spite of no guarantee for anything, you may remain stuck in situations, you do not have control, and I want you to know that you can still do something. You can choose to make the things given to you, your own choices. It’s like you’re given a very crappy and ugly box but you can paint it, cut it, or do whatever you want to, to make that ugly box YOURS. On top of that ugly box, you can place another box and then another. Until a time, when you look up you can see, not boxes stacked on top of each other, but something beautiful – something YOURS.

5 Steps to Get Your Life Together

Now, enough of the sentimental talk and here are the steps to get your life together. I am giving a fair warning, though; this might not necessarily work for everyone. I mean, getting your life organized is something very personal. However, some little things worked for me and I wanted to share them with the world. I hope they help you too.

1. Make a bucket list of things you want to do.

Now, when it comes to bucket lists you might already have one but I strongly recommend you to rewrite it. I want you to write the things you, and you alone want to do.

Do not write things others want. If your parents want you to be a doctor, it’s all good and nice. However, this is not that kind of bucket list. Do not write things that people expect of you. For example, if people expect you to be the overachiever but that is not what you want. Then it does not go into this list. The things you want, even if they are weird, silly, or impossible! If you want to do something like “I want to own a mansion” or “I want to dance in the rain,” write it. I repeat, “FOR YOU”. You will find big life dreams in there that give you an idea of where you want to be in the future.

2. Keep a Life Notebook

This one I invented myself, though I am not sure it’s something new. I made a notebook in which I wrote my dreams, my goals, and how I planned to accomplish them.

Why is there a distinction between “dream” and “goals”? Well, one way I like to think of dreams is that they are the “big idea”. Then I think of goals as the “parts of the big idea”. Like if, my dream is “I want to lose weight.” Then, I try to make the goal something, attainable. For example, “I want to lose 5 kilos by December”. In the ‘how to accomplish’ section, I write a plan so that I can accomplish what my goal is. It is not usually easy in the beginning. Sometimes, it might not even make sense. Nevertheless, the notebook is a good place to start planning things that you want to do in life.

3. Wake up Early

It doesn’t matter whether you’re a morning person or not. The thing is you have to wake up in the morning. I am a night person believe me. Waking up early makes you lethargic tired and unlikely to do things, I sympathize and understand this. However, when you wake up early you can sit down to plan and consider what to do to get your life together. If you do not believe me, then here is an excellent article about someone who learned to wake up early.

4. Do Your Work Outs

I also hate to move you know! If I believed in rebirth, I would want to be a sloth in my next life. However, since I am stuck with a human body I have to work out.

Ideally, you will work out in the morning. It doesn’t have to be Olympic style working out. It can be a simple workout with jumping the rope, pushups, and crunches, and you’re good to go.

Playing a sport does not count. I do not care if you’re part of a swimming club or football club or you do cardio. No, this workout you do for yourself. I know it’s difficult to think of an activity that makes you sweat, smell bad and cramp everywhere not as a gift. The kind of workout I am talking about is a little bit different from other types of workout for one reason: your choice.

This workout is not for you to lose weight, to look good or for fitness even. No, this is for your body to feel happy. If you do not believe me then here is an article by the Huffington’s Post, which provides evidence to this.

5.  Find Your Life Purpose

My personal opinion is that life purposes can shift because I believe we are not static. We constantly want different things during different periods. Still, it is important to know what you want to do at each stage in your life. Now, most of us don’t know what that mystical purpose is so here I have a video that can help it is called “Find your Life Purpose in 5 Minutes.” It’s a TED lecture by Adam Leipzig.

This is the first place where you start so that you can plan what you want in life.

That will be all for now, I hope these really can help someone out there. If any of you have a suggestion on how to organize our lives better then, I would really love to hear about it. Click here to read our previous post “TheOneSpy:  The Best Mobile Phone Monitoring App” in case you missed it. To read more about amazing lifestyle tips, keep visiting us on We are all you need for a great and happy lifestyle!

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